{"id":595,"date":"2021-03-29T11:49:53","date_gmt":"2021-03-29T09:49:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/luxportal.pl\/?p=595"},"modified":"2021-04-30T11:43:33","modified_gmt":"2021-04-30T09:43:33","slug":"slucham-i-co-dalej","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/luxportal.pl\/index.php\/2021\/03\/29\/slucham-i-co-dalej\/","title":{"rendered":"S\u0142ucham &#8211; i co dalej?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-rich is-provider-spotify wp-block-embed-spotify wp-embed-aspect-21-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"Spotify Embed: S\u0142ucham i co dalej? - Monika Gromadzka\" width=\"100%\" height=\"232\" allowtransparency=\"true\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"encrypted-media\" src=\"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/embed-podcast\/episode\/1BlBGFP0eBF0es81Ru9LfL?si=i_zQyRc5TUyM8XIpMqJd7A&#038;nd=1\"><\/iframe>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Sk\u0105d bierze si\u0119 nieumiej\u0119tno\u015b\u0107 s\u0142uchania? Mog\u0142abym podsumowa\u0107 jednym zdaniem &#8211; z potrzeby m\u00f3wienia o sobie.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Wiecie, z jakimi osobami najbardziej lubimy rozmawia\u0107? Z tymi, kt\u00f3rzy&nbsp; po\u015bwi\u0119caj\u0105 nam swoj\u0105 uwag\u0119. Czujemy si\u0119 wtedy wa\u017cni, zaopiekowani, w\u00f3wczas ca\u0142a uwaga po\u015bwi\u0119cona jest naszej osobie. Dobry rozm\u00f3wca, jest to dobry s\u0142uchacz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-drop-cap wp-block-paragraph\">Im mniej m\u00f3wi\u0119, tym bardziej poznaj\u0119 drug\u0105 osob\u0119. Im mniej budujesz g\u0142\u0119bokich relacji, tym powoli, coraz r\u00f3wnomierniej o niej zapominasz, nie pami\u0119tasz o jej potrzebach. Rozmowa z napotkan\u0105 osob\u0105 przypomina o wiele bardziej monolog, ani\u017celi dialog, a rozm\u00f3wca jest traktowany niczym \u017cywy pami\u0119tnik \u2013 miejsce ulokowania naszych \u017cali, jednocze\u015bnie pozbawione mo\u017cliwo\u015bci opowiedzenia o sobie. Budowanie relacji z cz\u0142owiekiem polega na poznawaniu jego \u017cycia, poznawaniu jego serca, na pomocy. I u\u015bmiech wtedy jest inny.<br><br>Im wi\u0119cej s\u0142uchasz kogo\u015b, tym bardziej go poznajesz.&nbsp;<br><strong>Im wi\u0119cej gadasz, tym bardziej samotnym cz\u0142owiekiem jeste\u015b.<\/strong>&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">S\u0105 ludzie, z kt\u00f3rymi nie da si\u0119 rozmawia\u0107.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Jak z tym mo\u017cesz zawalczy\u0107?&nbsp;<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Zr\u00f3b \u0107wiczenie &#8211; przy nast\u0119pnej rozmowie z pierwsz\u0105 napotkan\u0105 osob\u0105 pom\u00f3dl si\u0119 o mi\u0142o\u015b\u0107 dla niej, o wyrozumia\u0142o\u015b\u0107, zrozumienie dla Ciebie. Ju\u017c sama modlitwa b\u0119dzie pierwszym krokiem do tego, by skupi\u0107 si\u0119 nieco bardziej na drugim cz\u0142owieku. B\u0119dzie sednem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Nast\u0119pnie spr\u00f3buj szczerze zainteresowa\u0107 si\u0119 tre\u015bci\u0105 s\u0142\u00f3w wypowiadanych przez Twojego rozm\u00f3wc\u0119, daj\u0105c mu tym samym ca\u0142kowit\u0105 przestrze\u0144 do spokojnego wys\u0142owienia si\u0119.&nbsp;Trafionym zabiegiem jest tak\u017ce wczucie si\u0119, na ile to mo\u017cliwe, w jego troski, nie skupiaj\u0105c si\u0119 w tym momencie na w\u0142asnych. Od niedawna zacz\u0119\u0142am praktykowa\u0107 bardzo star\u0105 i tradycyjn\u0105 zasad\u0119 \u2013 po tym jak wpadnie Ci do g\u0142owy my\u015bl, kt\u00f3r\u0105 chcesz powiedzie\u0107, zastan\u00f3w si\u0119 szybko, jak\u0105 korzy\u015b\u0107 przyniesie wypowiedzenie jej na g\u0142os\u2026 Czy Tw\u00f3j dyskutant w\u0142a\u015bnie w tej chwili potrzebuje tych s\u0142\u00f3w?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Staraj si\u0119 wys\u0142ucha\u0107 rozm\u00f3wc\u0119. W trakcie k\u0142\u00f3tni chcemy si\u0119 wy\u017cali\u0107, opowiedzie\u0107 o tym co nas boli. Skupiamy si\u0119 przede wszystkim na Ja, Ja, Ja. Traktujemy nasze \u201eJa\u201d jak b\u00f3stwo,\u00a0\u00a0jak jaki\u015b bardzo wa\u017cny podmiot, do tego stopnia, \u017ce a\u017c koniecznym jest napisanie go z du\u017cej litery. Zamiast s\u0142ucha\u0107 rozm\u00f3wcy, czekamy a\u017c sko\u0144czy wyw\u00f3d, zniecierpliwieni i gotowi, a\u017ceby powiedzie\u0107 swoje racje. Starajmy si\u0119 by\u0107 dobrymi s\u0142uchaczami. Dajmy przestrze\u0144 ciszy i pe\u0142nej atencji, w momencie, w kt\u00f3rym nasz rozm\u00f3wca m\u00f3wi.\u00a0\u00a0Przecie\u017c kochane przez nas osoby, nasi bliscy, to ludzie z kt\u00f3rymi gramy do jednej bramki. A je\u015bli masz kiepsk\u0105 pami\u0119\u0107 i obawiasz si\u0119, \u017ce zapomnisz my\u015bli, kt\u00f3ra pojawi\u0142a Ci si\u0119 w trakcie rozmowy z drugim cz\u0142owiekiem, to we\u017a kartk\u0119 i na niej zanotuj. W\u00f3wczas nast\u0105pi podw\u00f3jna korzy\u015b\u0107 &#8211; Ty nie b\u0119dziesz musia\u0142 powtarza\u0107, a Tw\u00f3j rozm\u00f3wca przeczyta z kartki.<br><br><strong>Nie jest sztuk\u0105 m\u00f3wi\u0107 ci\u0105gle o sobie, sztuk\u0105 jest m\u0105drze dopytywa\u0107 si\u0119 co u innych.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Doskona\u0142y przyk\u0142ad kunsztu milczenia daje nam patron obecnego Roku Liturgicznego, Oblubieniec Maryi, \u015bw. J\u00f3zef, kt\u00f3rego s\u0142\u00f3w pr\u00f3\u017cno szuka\u0107 w Pi\u015bmie \u015awi\u0119tym. Nie wypowiedzia\u0142 jednego s\u0142owa, kt\u00f3re zanotowaliby Ewangeli\u015bci. My\u015bl\u0119, \u017ce jest to znak, \u017ce po prostu by\u0142 dobrym s\u0142uchaczem. Wnioskuj\u0119, i\u017c kilkukrotnie zastanawia\u0142 si\u0119 czy aby na pewno my\u015bl, kt\u00f3ra towarzyszy\u0142a mu w danym momencie jest t\u0105, kt\u00f3ra wniesie co\u015b do \u017cycia rozm\u00f3wcy. Potrafi\u0142 s\u0142ucha\u0107.&nbsp;<br><br>Sam Jezus w Ewangelii \u015bw. Mateusza m\u00f3wi tak:&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00ab<em>A powiadam wam: Z ka\u017cdego bezu\u017cytecznego s\u0142owa, kt\u00f3re wypowiedz\u0105 ludzie, zdadz\u0105 spraw\u0119 w dzie\u0144 s\u0105du.\u00a0Bo na podstawie s\u0142\u00f3w twoich b\u0119dziesz uniewinniony i na podstawie s\u0142\u00f3w twoich b\u0119dziesz pot\u0119piony<\/em>\u00bb. (Mt 12, 36-37)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>M\u00f3wmy i s\u0142uchajmy uwa\u017cnie.<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Sk\u0105d bierze si\u0119 nieumiej\u0119tno\u015b\u0107 s\u0142uchania? 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